Public speaking and perfectionism do not work.

So how can we overcome it? 👀

Here are some places to start.

1) Get tough with yourself. Or rather, with the part of you that demands perfection.

It isn’t helpful having these impossible standards. It holds you back. 👊🏻

It’s not the end of the world if you make a mistake. Everyone makes them!👊🏻

But most importantly:

If you are really serious about improving your public speaking, you will have to permit yourself some missteps. 👊🏻How else can you learn?

2) Notice (with kindness) how often people make small mistakes when public speaking or presenting for a couple of days. You will be amazed how normal it is. You might also be amazed how little anyone else watching them cares. 🙀

Practice letting go of control. How?

Start with instead of learning a presentation word for word, learn the bullet points of it instead.

Instead of focusing on getting things ‘right’, focus on connecting with your audience.

This quote from Brene Brown sums it up well:

“Healthy striving is self-focused: "How can I improve?"
Perfectionism is other-focused: "What will they think?”
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